Saturday, January 26, 2008

Politics

One thing you should know, I don't yell. I hate yelling, yellers, and people who speak over others. I hate it. Just because someone talks louder that doesn't mean I hear them any better. Frankly, once a voice is raised in anger or stupidity I will stop listening altogether. Also, I believe if a person gets angry, upset, their panties in a bunch over everything, then when something really and actually matters to them, I won't know that it really matters to them because of all the time they were angry, upset, and panties were bunchy over all things petty and small. So, I choose my battles and I try to choose carefully.

However, if a person has an issue that they can speak passionately and intelligently on, I will actively listen as long as they will actively and respectively listen to me in return. That's what these soapboxes will be. Me, getting behind something, asking something, or feeling passionately about something and hoping, wanting, an intelligent conversation to come of and from it. No yelling. No badgering. No name-calling. Just some things I would like to talk about and see how others feel and think about them.

With the latest batch of winners and casualties from the process known as the American electoral process, I have to say there is something that has been bothering me for about a year now. Something that has been simmering and brewing and I finally think it needs to be said: the language that is used in the electoral process. The language that is used to describe a candidate and their ideas, values, morals.

Specifically it is the sexist language that has been used in this campaign because (gasp!) a female candidate has been so audacious to make it so far into the electoral process. How dare she! She, that evil, power-hungry bitch! She married for power and she is hungry for more! That, that ladies and gents is the only reason she has gone after the White House!

(Sigh.)

How quick we are to go to the lowest denominator when it comes to describing someone, whether they are male or female. However, it seems to me, that when it comes to a woman we are much quicker to revert back to the school-children on the playground telling the others to meet us at the bikes at the end of the day.

Why? Why are we so quick to jump to the sexist language? Why do we believe that a woman who wants to go for the greatest job this country has to offer that comes with a pay-check that they are going after the job for different reasons than all of the men who have came before?
Why do we care? Why do we care so bloomin’ much why she and Bill were and are married? If…if they married for power are they any different than the Roosevelt’s, the Kennedy’s, the Lincolns, or the Washington’s just to name a few. I hate to break it to you, but people married for alliances of money, name, power, not for love; especially when it comes to political campaigns well into the twentieth century. As this was a common practice, these politically aligned marriages are not any different than the marriages that happened for centuries where kingdoms were aligned because this king married that queen. Power marriages happen all the time; just as power friendships happen. I’m pretty certain that without those power “friendships” Washington, as we know it, would not exist.

We are so quick to go to the sexist language, but we would never, openly, go for the racist language. Why, because it is so much more acceptable to go for the quick laugh, the easy quip of calling someone a bitch than to spend the extra second it takes to try and come up with a more intelligent word. Also, we do not think anything about calling someone a bitch, but we would never, ever call someone a nigger. Why, because society has come to realize one is acceptable and one is not.

But, why? Why has one become acceptable? I’m not saying we should regress to saying the “b-word” or the “c-word” and on and on, that doesn’t get us anywhere. I am saying that we need to stop being sophomoric about these issues.

There is also the issue of Republicans being quick to throw the jabs at the Democrats and the liberal are quick to throw the jabs at the conservatives. These open-air verbal matches do not get us anywhere, either. We've made the word liberal and conservative words that we want to wipe our shoes with. Throwing a low-blow my way does not make me respect your side, your ideas, your thoughts anymore than if I went to this playground tactic and threw sand at you about your side.

With the present president I think it is easy to say we, as a nation, as a whole, have become even more divided than we were in the past, we need a candidate that can bring us together. But more than that, we need to grow-up and bring ourselves together and stop with the name-calling and the childish sandlot fights. It’s ridiculous and we are better than that. At least I would still like to believe we are. I may be cynical, but I am still an idealist. How about we all try to be better than the other guy and stop; stop with the name calling, the bi-partisanship the sexist language towards everyone. Just a thought. However, if we keep on this attitude of that side and this side, we are not going to get anywhere politically. If we keep with the sexist language, we really are not going to get anywhere in terms of progress towards the future.

Monday, January 14, 2008

Bittersweet

Not many of you know but my girlfriend Missy has been struggling through something that many people deal with everyday...Divorce. This isn't amicable. As a christian she does'nt believe in divorce. After 18 years of marriage it's over.

Missy is a small town, girl next door who never expected that a fight would become a divorce. And she doesnt have the coping skills to deal with all of her feelings of hope, anger, depression, guilt and failure.

She has been and will continue to stay with me and I have agreed to accompany her to her therapy sessions. I have full faith that Missy can get through this.

At times when I don't believe in myself, I always believe in God. With Faith Hope and Love anything is possible.

fragment of hope
how long has it been.
the scent of you
and
of memories so clear.
you leaving
changed the way
i am living.
and i find it odd
when they say
i will learn to cope.
it's really not easy
when all you have
is a fragment hope

Friday, January 04, 2008

Caucuse Chaos

So Hillary came in Third, but this is strategic. This is a part of her plan ;)


How they work: In each of Iowa's nearly 2,000 voting precincts Democrats and Republicans hold separate meetings on caucus night. The meetings can be held almost anywhere - in schools, firehouses, church basements and even living rooms. Anybody registered member of a party can attend that party's meeting.

Republicans vote in the caucuses by secret ballots. The vote determines which delegates, representing which candidates, will attend county conventions. There, delegates are chosen for state congressional district conventions, where delegate to national convention are picked.

The Republicans use a winner-take-all system. Whichever candidate wins the caucuses takes all of the delegates for the state.

Democrats, The meetings divide into groups, each supporting a particular candidate. If a candidate doesn't have a sufficient percentage of the total number of voters attending, its members join other candidates' groups sufficient percentage of the total number of voters attending, its members join other candidates' groups. When that redistribution finally ends with groups of sufficient size, the delegates are divided among them according to the percentage of the meetings' attendees they represent. The process then proceeds through the county and state conventions. At the national convention, the candidates receive delegates proportionately, rather than the winner taking all of the state's delegates.

Doors open around 6:ish,doors close at 7:ish and it will be finished around 8:ish. That's it.

Now, why the hell it's in Iowa and why Iowa is so damn important:

1800's, the state adopts a caucus platform. The state's first caucuses were held in mid-spring, in the middle of the national presidential nominating schedule.

1916: Iowa held its first and only primary election. Only 25 percent of registered voters showed up. Iowa reverted back to its caucus system.

Apparently nothing interesting happened in approximately 50-or so years.

1972: Iowa's Democratic Party moved its caucus date forward, positioning the caucus ahead of the New Hampshire primary and making it the first nominating event in the nation. Sen. Edward Muskie of Maine, the front-runner, beat Sen. George McGovern of South Dakota by less of a margin than expected. McGovern went on to become the Democratic presidential nominee.


1976: A little-known Democratic governor from Georgia, Jimmy Carter, campaigned heavily in the state and wound up coming in second to "uncommitted." That almost-win positioned Carter to later take the Democratic nomination. Republicans moved up their primary to make the Iowa caucuses a bipartisan national event. President Gerald Ford narrowly beat Gov. Ronald Reagan of California. Ford later won the Republican nomination, but lost the presidency to Carter.


1980: Carter was the incumbent president, and he beat Sen. Ted Kennedy of Massachusetts. Ronald Reagan, meanwhile, did not focus heavily on Iowa. But his GOP competition, George H.W. Bush, did, and won the GOP contest with 32 percent of the vote. Reagan received 30 percent of the vote. Reagan ultimately beat Carter. By this time, the media began relying on results in Iowa as an indicator of how the race would turn out.


1984: Reagan, the incumbent president, was unopposed. On the Democratic side, it was a wide open race, with Sen. Gary Hart of Colorado, former Vice President Walter Mondale, Rev. Jesse Jackson and Sen. John Glenn of Ohio facing off. Mondale, who won the Iowa caucuses, was ultimately the Democratic nominee. Reagan defeated him in the general election.


1988: An open race in Iowa and one that ultimately had no bearing on either party's eventual nomination. On the Republican side, Sen. Bob Dole of Kansas beat televangelist Pat Robertson and then-Vice President George Bush in the caucuses, but Bush ultimately became the nominee. He also ultimately beat Democratic nominee Gov. Michael Dukakis of Massachusetts, who came in third to Rep. Richard Gephardt of Missouri.


1992: Incumbent President George Bush was unopposed among Republicans, and any competitiveness in Iowa was rendered moot by the candidacy of Sen. Tom Harkin of Iowa, a beloved figure in the state. With him running, few other Democrats even bothered to compete. Bill Clinton went on to win the presidency.


1996: Democrat Clinton was the incumbent, and unopposed. Among Republicans, Bob Dole beat Pat Buchanan. Clinton beat Dole later that year in the general election.


2000: Iowa winners Al Gore and George W. Bush went on to win their party's nomination. Bush, the Republican, won the general election.


2004: Despite a surge in popularity from Vermont Gov. Howard Dean, Democrat John Kerry, who'd previously lagged in polls, won the caucuses. John Edwards came in second. Kerry went on to win the nomination. On the Republican end, Bush was unopposed, and went on to win a second term.

Personally, I know Hillary will be successful in New Hampshire and will go on to be the first woman to win a nomination, but thats just me!

Hillary!

MSNBC polls show that Hillary has a double digit lead over Barack Obama in New Hampshire!!!

Friday, December 28, 2007

Single in the Valley

Single-dom isn’t always bad. In so many ways, having only myself to depend on and come home to has helped me figure out just what is really important to me. It helped me focus on school that I love in a place (while not ideal) where I can be happy.

I really want that to be enough for me, but sometimes I feel like I’m failing because I’m 28 years old and I’m single.

It looks so silly when I write it, but it’s true. And when you’re faced with that feeling of failure, you start to question what it is you’re lacking. You start filling the relationship void with things like hand bags, shoes and hair-clips and perfumes and you proclaim that you love being single because single is FREE to do whatever you’d like to do!

But inside? That void still exists sometimes.

I’m tired of feeling like something is wrong, so instead of indulging that aspect, I vote we embrace what is right about us.

So, here are a few things that make me completely lovable:

  • I’m a friendly person. I don’t believe in walking around with my nose in the air. so I am quick to offer a hello or a smile.

  • I’m always a shoulder for people to lean on. If ever you should need a moment to vent, or even to just sit quietly I am there immediately and without question.

  • I am fiercely loyal and will protect those I love with everything I have in me.

  • I am one smart cookie when it comes down to it.


Now I want to hear from you - what makes you completely and wholly lovable? Even if you are already in a relationship (lucky!), what makes your partner love you?

Tuesday, December 18, 2007

This sucks.

(A moment to set the scene:)
Finals week. 36.5 papers finished out of 37.
Take home essays to finish: 1 set of 2 questions.
Finals taken: 1.
Finals left to take: 3.
Two of those finals are tomorrow.
I really, really need to get an "A" on one of them.
(Feel free to send me all kinds of warm and fuzzy thoughts around 10:00 a.m Eastern Standard Tme)
(and then again around 1:00pm EST.) (Thanks.)
21 of the papers are due on Thursday at 1:00 pm EST.
They count as a total of 55% of my grade for the semester.
(No pressure.)
Saturday, Virginia was hit with another ice/snow storm.
School was not canceled on Monday for the mountain people!
I lost three hours of precious study time to go take a final on an undergrad stats class that has nothing to do with my GPA.
I was annoyed as all hell.
Lastnight I finished a research paper while sending dirty texts to my entire address book, and I needed to refresh my eyes. So, time to wash the face and brush the teeth, take out the contacts, put on the glasses and start the next round of typing. The take home essays, to be exact.

Take out the contact container from my medicine cabinet.
Grab the container of multi-vitamins, put one in the right contact holder, one in the left contact holder. Stand and stare at the contact container.
Try and figure out what I did wrong.
Why doesn't that look right?
Tilt head ala Marisa's 8th grade school picture.
Hmmm.
Oh...
...and let the laughter commence
and the dark circles under my eyes brighter for a moment.
Pretty sure the contacts would be healthier in the morning, but they would not be cleaner.
Brush teeth.
Feel (slightly) refreshed.
Think of some bullshit to write for the essay test.
20% of my grade, so it needs to be good bullshit.
Wonder Twins, activate!
In the form of: giving a shit!
Almost there....almost there.....

Saturday, December 15, 2007

Quotes from Madonna

I got married for all the wrong reasons, when my husband didn't turn out to be everything I imagined he would be, I just wanted to end everything.

There's no such thing as a perfect soulmate. If you meet someone and you think they're perfect, you better run as fast as you can in the other direction. Because your soulmate is the one who pushes all your buttons, pisses you off on a regular basis and makes you face your shit. It's not easy having a good marriage, but I don't want easy, easy doesn't make you grow, easy doesn't make you think. I thank God everyday that I'm married to a man that makes me think, that's my definition of true love.

In Kabbalah we learned that if we want something in life we have to give something. If we want compassion, we have to give compassion, if we want tolerance, we have to give tolerance, if we don't want to be judged, then me must not judge.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

The Power of One

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Because as he stood on home plate they called him everything but his name.
Because as he ran the bases they cheered his name.
Because even though they yelled and cheered his name with each home run he hit they still didn't respect him.
Because with all of that he still came out of the dugout to be cheered and jeered during each game.

Jackie Robinson

Thursday, December 06, 2007

Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Dorks

I truly believe we all have an inner dork. Some people also have an outter dork. The inner dork can't stand it and it must be released and it shows. We all know these people. The total dweebie. Mine is safely tucked inside. I am however, choseing to share it with all of you. And yes, you should feel special.

My inner dork is trivia. Anything trivia, useless and serves no other purpose than to allow me to start a sentence with the phrase, "Did you know..." trivia, I am all over it.Good useless information. Things that would make me a great contestant on Jeopardy, but really serves no other purpose.


Did you know that there are exactly 216 noodles in every can of Campbell's Chicken Noddle Soup. If there is one more or one less it is automatically kicked off the assembly line.

Also, the soup isn't cooked until it's sealed in the can....pass it on, amuse your friends and impress your dates. I suggest using it when they are drunk, getting drunk or at the very least have a beverage in their hand. Oh, yeah, it'll make you look smart. Your getting laid ratio just increased immensly. No need to thank me. You're entirely welcome :)

Sunday, November 25, 2007

I'm Thankful for

My Salvation
My FabuLOuS Family
My Education
My Cute Feet
&
My Great Hair

Thursday, November 15, 2007

Ben Johnson Iowa College Republicans Leader

Hahaha!!!

He's incrediably cute!!!

Who would seriously take this guy seriously?!

"I don't know why every student isn't as politicly active as I am"!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dj9mnOAiGQI

Top 10

Richest Models


Gisele Bundchen: $33 million
Kate Moss: $9 million
Heidi Klum: $8 million
Adriana Lima: $6 million
Allessandra Ambrosio: $6 million
Carolyn Murphy: $5 million
Natalia Vodianova: $4.5 million
Karolina Kurkova: $3.5 million
Daria Werbowy: $3.5 million
Gemma Ward: $3 million


Top 10 Fashion Cities of 2007
1 New York - Far and away No.1 by every index
2 Rome - Beats out Paris, London and Milan
3 Paris - Heartbeat of the fashion world
4 London - Pulsing with creative energy
5 Milan - Perennial contender for No. 1
6 Tokyo - Gaining global influence
7 Los Angeles - Will Posh spice impact Ranking?
8 - Hong Kong - No. 1 in South Asia
9 - Las Vegas Emerging as vibrant fashion center
10 - Singapore - Strong regional hub

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Friends Don't Let Friends

Wear stupid costumes alone!!!

As I said earlier, Haven bought my costume. She insisted since she has more options in Chantilly than I do here. Michelle agreed and said she would be Little Red Riding Hood because she wants to be eaten! Haven decided on her own that I would be a great Marie Aintonette!

M A R I E A I N T O N E T T E ?

Why?

Because she was a pretty and sexy and was a lesbian!

The costume is elaborate and gorgeous and the wig leaves something to be desired. The costume does hide my hideous brace on my knee.

Missy's going as Little Bo Peep. Funniest shit eva! We're going to Dave's Taverna for a party and a little debauchary for Halloween.

See ya there!

Dear Haven

Okay, so I hit a rough patch.
It happens.

Nothing huge, but all of that small stuff that we're told not to sweat and normally I don't, but then, it kind of all got to me. So here is the quick of it (or the long of it.)

I had two huge tests coming up. I completely bombed one of them. The one that counted the most. I spent more time on the Wednesday night test when I should have spent all the time on the Thursday test because of Becca drama. I knew this, but everyone was more worried about the Wednesday, so I listened to them, not to me. We will get the test back tommorrow (only took two weeks, and conveniently past mid-term and last day to drop.) If I get 20 points out of 100 I will be surprised. I know I bombed it. This in combination with a few papers, yeah GPA not steller.

This will affect my over-all need to maintain a 4.0, GPA. But no pressure.

Again, it happens.

Saturday night my girlfriends and I went out...and when I say went out--we went OUT. We ended up in the ER--fun times for sure! My knee was swollen beyond reconigition and my boot cut Michelle's chin. She actually needed some organic stiches that just 'dissolve'. We bitched all night to try and get a plastic surgeon to do the work, but our tantrums got us nowhere. We went home to a dissappointing night!! Such a hot mess!

Had my MRI at 9 this a.m. and the radiologist told me that it looked pretty clean to him except for some scar tissue that will lead to more pain down the road. This is the knee that got phucked when I fell from a pyramid when I was a nasty Amy Winehouse'sh 101 lbs!!! I have to hear from the doc who actually has to officially tell me whats going on. I'm feeling slightly better overall yall, still painful but the Percocet makes everything better :)

Partay at Dave's Taverna on Court Square tommorrow night. Haven bought me a costume. I'm stoked about it, really :) All she can tell me is that it's baby blue with gold and it's sexay--Hey! Frightening thought!

It's also going to be a scary night here at Casa de Amaya too. Lots of little witches, goblins, pumpkins, and bitches! Yay!

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!

Friday, October 19, 2007

And now a moment to reflect

or an update, which ever you prefer. Okay, I know I've been really bad about writing, posting, and reading. I know this. I apologize. Here is an update on what has been going on with me. Anyone besides Becca and I ever drink the Monster Java Energy drinks? We drink a lot! That will change now because they made my chest hurt so badly I thought I was having a heart attack...no joke. Seriously, not worth it for the energy!

Classes: They are going well. I have two huge tests this week (which I should be studying for, but no, I am blogging. Ah, good use of my time.) I am hoping when I get two papers back this week they will have a big gold star on them or a nice scratch and sniff sticker (really, why don't we get those as adults?) I will be able to breathe easier and hopefully not feel even more overwhelmed.

Honestly, I am already a bit tired of school and I am trying to fight it. where is the line? The line between sanity and the line between "I can see what this will mean and do for my future" become blurred and lost? That's where I am. I'm hoping that I can take the easy way out and my class schedule won't allow for a work schedule next semester. Chicken-shit, you say? Yep.

Paper count: 5/37 (My plan to hit some of these out was squashed due to my Wednesday and Thursday at study group; the chest pain and frustration thus not allowing for any type of mind to keyboard collaboration.)

Presentation count: 2/2

Test count: 1/7

So far I have all A's (I think.)

Saturday, October 06, 2007

Octoberfest

Is this weekend. I was just invited but I had to decline :( Courtney is giving birth again. But I was invited by a guyI dated a million years ago. Had I not been completely smitten with Los, I still couldn't have accepted. Nice gesture though. And then I'm on to see my cousin's little guy Noah who is in a body cast. He's three years old and was hurt in a serious accident on Tuesday. Keep him in your prayers.

Friday, October 05, 2007

Genius

Her voice is so beautiful! I have to share!!

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:::Mexican Bitches:::

As most of you know I have been dogsitting for Michelle's little "Mexican Bitches". One of which is pregnant. And it just wouldn't be right if the doggy didn't have it's puppies on my watch! So it did!!! She had two! It was pretty nasty. Incase you didn't know, puppies do come from the doggie gyna!

:::DRUM ROLL:::
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Both bitches were dark too. So yes. I "lost" the bet :0)